The Myths We've Outgrown

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Since childhood, there are stories we’ve been told — and we silently believed — that keep us from stepping fully into who we’re meant to be. Some of them are passed down from cultural beliefs. Some sound like “common sense.” But many of them are myths that quietly hold us back from our full potential and are actually hurting us instead of helping us.

One of the biggest? The idea that self-care is selfish. Somewhere along the way, many of us were taught to put everyone else first. But here’s the truth: you can’t pour from an empty cup. Taking care of yourself isn’t a luxury — it’s essential. It’s how you show up as your best, most energized self in every area of your life, especially as moms. And I don’t mean going to a spa, even tho that’s great also! I mean building self-care into your everyday routine that becomes a lifestyle and not just once a year on Mother’s Day. I am fully guilty of this and have learned to communicate my needs instead of putting everyone’s needs before mine and then becoming angry at a later time because of it. I have set my non-negotiable times that are for ME where I put my phone on do not disturb and read a chapter in the current novel I’m loving, or take a nice, long everything shower, or just lay in bed and rest. In a world where we are constantly on and reachable, make sure you unplug, disconnect and make time to just be with yourself and show her some love.

Have you ever heard that it’s too late to reinvent yourself? That your best years are behind you. That if you haven’t done it by now, maybe it’s just not meant to be. 25 and still not married? 30 and haven’t had kids yet? 35 and haven’t purchased your first home? Why is our worth as a Latina women tied to finding a husband and getting married, what if we want to travel and explore the world first? What if we want to pursue a Masters degree before having kids? What if we want to start a business and pour our time and effort into that? What if we’re not ready to have kids yet? And if our goal IS to get married, have kids and be a stay at home mother, we can do that also, the point is choosing what works for YOU and your life, not what these myths have dictated FOR us. All of these myths cause unnecessary stress and doubt in our mind, which in turn makes us love ourselves less because we aren’t keeping up with the standards these myths hold for us. But here’s what I believe: if you’re still breathing, you’re still on time. Every version of you that you’ve ever dreamed of becoming is still possible — and she’s waiting for you to say yes. Remember that when you align and decide a goal or an objective for yourself- the universe, God, a higher power (whichever you choose to believe) in turn aligns everything in the universe to conspire and help you achieve this goal.

And lastly, the myth that we have to choose between being great moms or wives and having personal goals. But motherhood and ambition are not opposites. You’re allowed to love your family fiercely and chase the version of you that’s still becoming. In fact, showing your kids what it looks like to keep growing is a gift in itself. When I put my career on pause to focus on my family 3 years ago, I was doing it for ME, because I felt I needed and wanted that at that time. I remember through both of my pregnancies and deliveries, I never stopped working. I didn’t give myself the post partum days to lay in bed with my babies and bond, I couldn’t, I had employees and clients that were depending on me. But looking back now, if I wanted to I could have. So when I started feeling the itch to dive into another business, Amigas Mia’s was born. I am so passionate about my Latina heritage and sharing real, authentic stories that embrace and celebrate every shade of womanhood- from the win’s to the setbacks and everything in between. To be able to share these stories with so many of you who need to hear it because we all struggle with the same issues, just different circumstances. Because choosing to build this community and chase this personal goal of mine, doesn’t make me less of a great mother or wife.

So the next time one of these myths is disturbing your peace, remember that: You’re not asking for too much. You’re not selfish. You’re not behind. You’re not broken. You’re powerful, evolving, and just getting started — and I see you.

Besos, Jenn💋