Don't Believe Every Negative Thought You Think Anymore

I used to think positive mindset was just a buzzword — something people said when they didn’t want to talk about real-life struggles. But over time, I noticed something…Two people could go through the same hard thing. One crumbles. The other grows. And it wasn’t luck or personality — it was their perspective. The thoughts you feed yourself shape your life, they shape how you heal and how you keep going. You don’t have to fake positivity. But if you can train your mind to look for the good — even on the hard days — your world will begin to shift.

Positive thoughts don’t ignore reality — they help you rise above it. And I’ve definitely been there- when I hated my job, when I wasn’t happy with my living situation and wished I had what others around me had. So once I figured out that if I changed my perspective, my circumstances would change, it was a no brainer for me. I would look at myself in the mirror and only say positive things to myself, I started consuming content on social media of what I aspired to be, my vision board and journal were filled with my goals and dreams. I would jump out of bed and grab my journal because I was so excited to dream up a better life, much better than the one I had. So I did the heavy lifting and began training my brain to only see the positive in situations and to change the negative narrative that was constantly running through my head.

And even tho I have trained my brain and subconscious, I still deal with those negative thoughts that so often creep in, so here is what I do to quiet the negative noise in my head:

✨ I insert my name into the negative thought: Instead of spiraling in my head, I speak to myself like I would to a friend. “Jenn, you’ve been here before. You can handle this.” It sounds small, but it’s so powerful because you are speaking directly to yourself and affirming that you will always speak kindly to yourself.

🧠 When I start letting a negative thought or situation really get to me, I reframe it with this question: “Will this still matter in 10 days? 10 months? 10 years?” Spoiler Alert: probably not. So let it go. Why let something that actually won’t matter consume you, train your brain to identify the situation, sometimes we make a mountain out of a mole hill when there is no need.

📲 This is one of my favorites: I clean up my social media like I clean up my house- consuming positive content will train your subconscious to move away from content that is constantly saying things like “I’m broke, I have no money, I hate my life etc” I try not to watch or listen to anything negative, not even as a joke. You should be consuming content that speaks to the life you are creating and the life you envision for yourself, not to compare yourself but to be your motivation because I’m here to tell you that if they can do it, so can you! A reset to your social media is a reset to your mind.

📓 Instead of bottling it up, I’m brain dumping: This means getting the mess out of your head and onto paper. Write it down. Don’t filter it. Free therapy is grabbing a piece of paper and writing down your thoughts and feelings in that moment, you don’t need to find a solution, you just need to get it out of your thoughts and in a journal or notebook to go back to it and reflect. I especially like to do this when I’m feeling off, writing helps me express the emotions I may not be able to say out loud nor sometimes want to. Write it out, then close the notebook and move on.

💭 I love to repeat this 6-word mantra: “What if it all works out?” Say it again. Now say it like you mean it. Because in the end, I’m here to tell you it always does. We put so much importance on things that in the moment might seem like the end of the world, but if we actually put it against the bigger perspective, we can see clearly that it’s not as big of a deal as we’re making it and always always remember this saying “Lo que es para ti, nadie te lo quita” which translates to “What is meant to be yours, no one can take from you”

And finally—I move my body. A walk, a stretch, even dancing in my kitchen with my boys helps interrupt the chatter in my head and shift the energy. So put on your favorite playlist while you’re cooking dinner and move those hips!

You don’t have to fix everything at once. Just take one small positive action that reminds your brain: you’re safe, you’re capable, and you’re staying positive.

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Besos, Jenn💋