2 Truths You Need To Hear That Are Keeping You Stuck

We all have a sad story—a moment, a chapter, a season in life that left a mark on us. For some, it was heartbreak. For others, betrayal, loss, or a deep disappointment that felt like it changed everything. We all carry something. But here’s the truth: The difference isn’t in what happened to us—it’s in what we choose to do with it. Some of us choose to learn from it, grow through it, and use it to fuel our healing journey. Others unknowingly allow it to define them, staying trapped in an old version of themselves, because it feels safer than the unknown healed version that can’t hide behind the past trauma anymore. And if that’s where you are right now, I want you to know: You’re not broken. You’re just holding on to something that no longer serves you and the great news is—you don’t have to stay there.

So let’s talk about 2 hard truths that may be keeping you stuck:

1. You won’t get closure from the people who hurt you- so stop waiting for it and move on.

Healing is your responsibility now. Waiting for an apology, explanation, or validation only keeps you stuck. Closure isn’t something you get from others- it’s something you create for yourself when you decide your peace matters more than your pain. Freedom starts when you stop giving others the power to your future and stop waiting for an apology or closure that is never coming but instead you start focusing on a better future and understanding that healing from the anger, hurt and hate inside your heart will finally set you free. It has absolutely nothing to do with them and everything to do with your peace. Because remember that nothing is more powerful than being unbothered and nothing is more freeing than deciding being bitter and unhappy just isn’t for you anymore, instead you are choosing happiness and healing.

2. You’ve made your trauma part of your identity.

When you’ve carried hurt for so long, it starts to feel familiar—like home. And without realizing it, your story becomes centered around what broke you instead of what built you. But you are not your trauma. You are your healing. You are your strength. You are the comeback. You can’t become your future self while carrying around the past broken version of yourself. Growth will cost you your comfort zone, familiar habits and even some relationships. But you can’t carry old wounds into a new life. That loving respectful relationship that you want to attract so badly? That dream job that you know will change your life? All of the things you dream about are on the other side of healing, when you show up as your best self, that’s what you will attract into your new life. Your victim mentality and broken self will only keep attracting broken patterns, broken relationships, broken friends, broken jobs and so fourth. When you want better for yourself, you will do the work no matter what it takes because you deserve THE BEST this world has to offer and we can all achieve that but it starts with you changing your identity from being a victim of your past to a stronger version of yourself that chose not to give up and instead turned the pain into power.

The truth is: your past traumas may have shaped you, but it does not get to define you—unless you let it. This is your reminder that it’s safe to outgrow old thought patterns. It’s safe to rewrite your story. And most importantly, it’s safe to be happy—even if you once thought you’d never get there. You’re not stuck—you’re on the edge of a breakthrough.

Keep going. You’re doing the work. And that’s worth celebrating.

Besos, Jenn💋